THINGS YOU CAN DO TO PROMOTE POSITIVE BEHAVIOUR
Think about own behavior & role modeling – tamāiti will copy! Keep to familiar routines so they know what to expect.
Have visual reminders about routines to support their understanding
Have photos or draw pictures of what happens each day, or use a sand timer to show how long before bed.
short, simple & clear.
Teach tamāiti what you want them to do, instead of what not to do, eg. ‘Please walk when you’re inside’ instead of ‘don’t run’.
GIVE FRAQUENT &
Look for opportunities where you can comment on them behaving appropriately & positively, eg. ‘I’m really proud of the way you are playing with Tama’ instead of saying ‘good boy’.
Quick & excited distractions are a useful technique if you notice tamāiti about to react in an inappropriate way, eg. ‘Oh look at the big tower Ariana has built’.
Having a choice can empower tamāiti to choose more positive behaviours, eg. if they are resisting coming inside, say ‘Okay do you want to hold my hand or shall we race inside to kai?’
HELP TAMĀITI BACK INTO PLAY
If they have been upset, wait until they are calm & ready to join play, then support them to do that – either individually or in a group activity.
SOCIAL AND EMOTIONAL DEVELOPEMENT
An important part of the social & emotional development for tamaiti is learning & inter- acting with others. Kaiako can help this by promoting peer relationships between tamaiti.
BEHAVIOUR IS USUALLY
A RESPONSE TO AN EMOTION OR SITUATION
How tamaiti understand & express their emotions significantly impacts their ability to manage themselves in everyday life.
Tamaiti who have difficulty regulating their emotions are likely to also have problems managing their behaviors.
These challenges can often relate to difficulties with communication, social interactions & other areas of development.
AGES AND STAGES
The following is a general guide of what to expect at each age – each tamāiti is unique & will develop at their own pace
Show emotions through crying, laughing smiling.
Respond to waiata, hold their toys, read books.
Play next to and along side other children
4 - 5 YEARS
Pretend play e.g. pretending a doll is a baby, enjoy play with other tamaiti, become upset less often than they used to, & calms down more
Strong relationships with all tamāiti, whānau & kaiako
all tamāiti well & understanding their preferences & dislikes
on the strengths of the tamāiti
Children to understand how they are feeling by labelling them, e.g. happy, sad, disappointed, proud, shy
THINGS TO CHECK
Has your tamāiti had their hearing checked?
Does your tamaiti have difficulty understanding instructions or questions?
Does your tamāiti have difficulties playing with & alongside others?
What is going on before the un- wanted behaviour starts? Can this be changed, planned for, or avoided?
How are others responding to the behaviour? Is it making the situation worse?
Are there life changes or experiences that could be contributing to this behaviour? (eg. birth of a new baby, whānau moving etc.)
IF YOU ANSWER ĀE TO ANY OF THE PĀTAI, YOU CAN TRY THE FOLLOWING:
Use the tips in the “Things you can do to promote positive behaviour” section in this information sheet.
Have a korero with someone who knows your child well (eg. kaiako, other whānau). Have they noticed the same things?
Are the kaiako using any strategies that you could also use at home? It can make a big difference when mātua & kaiako are using the same strategies.